Have you ever wondered what your parenting style is? Well I have! I have always been interested in how different people parent and the effects those types of parenting styles have on their kids in the future.
One of my favorite classes in college was child psych (which is probably not surprising since I have a parenting blog)! I enjoyed learning about child development and you guessed it parenting styles! Nowadays there are so many different types of parenting styles, but I will just focus on 5 of them: Authoritative Parenting, Authoritarian Parenting, Permissive Parenting, Neglectful Parenting, and Attachment Parenting.
Authoritative Parenting Style
This parenting style was developed by Diana Baumrind in the 1960’s. She described this parenting style as the ideal and most effective way to parent. Parents who possess this style show high levels of love and warmth towards their children as well as setting reasonable boundaries and rules. These parents also set high expectations for their children; however, they provide their children with the resources, love, and support to attain them. Authoritative parents also encourage independence and for their children to express their opinions openly. These parents also tend to provide fair discipline when necessary and will discuss the punishment with their children so they are aware of why they are being punished.
Children who grow up with authoritative parents tend to have high self-esteem, strong self-regulatory skills, and exhibit emotional control. These children are generally happy and successful.
Authoritarian Parenting Style
This is another parenting style developed by Diana Baumrind. This parenting style is categorized by high demands and low responsiveness. This means that the parents have extremely high expectations for their children but they provide little love, support, and resources to attain them. These parents tend to be very strict with their children as well and provide harsh, unrealistic punishments. Parents who possess this parenting style typically yell at their children and do not give them options or choices.
Children who grow up with authoritarian parents tend to associate obedience and success with love and warmth. These children can also display aggressive behavior while others may be fearful and shy. Children also tend to have low self-esteem, may have difficulty in social situations, and can suffer from depression and anxiety in adolescence and adulthood. These children typically conform easily.
Permissive Parenting Style
Permissive Parenting Style is categorized as high in responsiveness/warmth and low in demandingness. Permissive parents want to be their child’s friend instead of a parent. These parents let their children make the decisions and are rarely disciplined. If they do discipline their children, they are extremely inconsistent. This parenting style is also known as indulgent parenting.
Children who have permissive parents tend to struggle with self-regulation and self-control. They also lack self-discipline, can be insecure, and demanding.
Neglectful Parenting Style
You can probably guess what parents who possess this parenting style are like! These parents provide low warmth/love and low demandingness. These parents let their children do what they want without consequences. They don’t monitor their children’s activities or behavior as well as being uninvolved in their children’s schooling. The children basically fend for themselves. These parents provide inconsistent discipline where they will not punish at all or the punishment can be extreme.
Children who grow up with a neglectful parent tend to suffer from low self-esteem, depression, poor cognitive, social, and emotional development, lower IQ scores, and can possess deviant behavior.
Attachment Parenting Style
This is a new style of parenting that is becoming extremely popular among parents. This style was developed by pediatrician William Sears, M.D.. Parents who possess this parenting style focus on the nurturing aspect of parenting from day 1. The goal through attachment parenting is to raise independent and secure children. Parents pursue this parenting style through skin-to-skin contact as much as possible during infancy, breastfeeding to strengthen the bond between mother and baby (parents feel that by breastfeeding the baby learns that you are listening to them and respond to their needs), responds to child with sensitivity instead of punishment, engaged night time parenting (co-sleeping and bed sharing is very common), provides positive discipline, and strive for balance in family and personal life. Since this parenting style is relatively new, there is not enough research done to know the effects of children raised with this parenting style. If you want to know other ways to bond with your baby that can go along with this parenting style, check out my post 7 Ways to Bond with Your Baby.
So those are the 5 main parenting styles. I personally believe that you can possess different qualities from other parenting styles and don’t need to completely fit into one. I would like to think that I possess the authoritative parenting style with a hint of attachment parenting. What is your parenting style? Do you fit into a specific style or are you a combination of 2? Also, don’t forget to sign up for my monthly newsletter so you can stay up-to-date on all the ups and downs of parenting in addition to finding out when my ebook “How to Potty Train Your Child in 7 Days” is available! Please share this article on social media (sharing is caring 😉 ) to find out which parenting styles your friends possess!